Unfortunately, parenting doesn’t come with a manual. You have to figure out how to best raise your kids. Among the mistakes you should avoid, however, is hiding anxiety and other forms of mental illness from your kids. As a parent, it is only natural that you want to shield your kids from certain exposures. However, hiding your anxiety or mental disorder(s) won’t help.
Kids pick up cues even as you struggle to hide your emotions, and it might send the wrong signals. Noting that kids learn by imitating what happens around them, as a parent, you should embrace the mental illness or anxiety, and find a counselor to speak to help you through the parenting journey. Here is how a counselor can help you to deal with anxiety or mental illness without affecting your kids’ growth.
Activities of daily living
Anxiety or mental illness can take a toll on your wellbeing affecting how you carry on your activities of daily living. Without proper support from your friends and relatives, your kids could find it hard to cope up. They might have to cook and clean, among other responsibilities.
With a counselor’s help, you can identify the most stressing concerns, establish a way to deal with them, and find a balance such as developing a routine to ensure everything is in order. Even when faced by stressing situations, your counselor will help you to create a mechanism that allows you to cope without causing a stir.
Keeping in touch
Establishing a healthy connection with your kids is vital. However, if your emotional balance is not at its best, you might be unable to communicate. Moreover, if you are dealing with severe signs such as psychosis or hallucinations, you would be emotionally unavailable for your kids. Besides, you would depict mixed reactions that they can hardly comprehend. What’s more, with such signs, your reactions could see the kids blaming themselves, thinking that it is their fault that you are behaving that way.
A counselor can help you to establish a healthy communication routine. Simple measures such as a cuddle or am inspiring and comforting note on the lunchbox, for instance, could be what it takes to reinforce your love and care. In some cases, you might need to create a family ritual. For example, use unique nicknames or gestures to help them feel secure.
Once your kids are at an appropriate age, you might consider talking to them about your anxiety situation or mental illness. However, it might be a scary landscape, and you might not know how to best break the news without affecting your kids’ emotional stability. With a counselor’s help, you can devise an approach that makes it comfortable. What’s more? You get to foster a healthy relationship. This means that your kids will not only understand your situation but also open up if they face stressing situations.
Anxiety and mental illness don’t have to derail your parenting journey. With the right support and guidance, a counselor can help you navigate through the tough waters; after all, even the emotionally stable parents have a hard time raising their kids. Being a parent can be demanding and you can use all the help you can get. Seeking a counselor’s support is one of the most straightforward approaches to ensure your emotional balance is at its best.