Be it your teen kid’s first affair, or a summer fling, breakup hurts. It can prove to be emotionally draining, especially for teenagers who are just getting familiarized with the concept of heartbreak. One minute they are soaring high on the clouds of love, and the next minute they have crashed into a pool of tears. While teenage kids are dealing with breakup, parents have a good role to play. While being good parents, there are many things parents should do.
As parents, the lesson of the breakup is the time to teach them about disappointment, rejection, and pain that often go hand in hand with relationships. More so, you would also want your teen kids to dust their back and move on in life, rather than feeling hopeless and left alone.
Here are some ways on how you can help your teenage child dealing with breakup.
Approve Your Teenager’s Emotions
Combat the urge to reduce your child’s emotions. Just because you think the relationship didn’t stand the test of time doesn’t imply that your teenager didn’t have a valid sentiment attached to their ex. The pain, irrespective of the kind of breakup, is always strong.
Validate their emotions and feelings by reassuring them of your support and empathy. Make them approve the fact that any ending of a relationship is utterly doleful, however, they must be strong enough to overcome anybody or rule anybody’s mind for long. Keep away from saying that relationships aren’t a big deal or teenage love usually does not work out.
Learn To Be a Proactive Listener
One of the best ways to help your teen daughter cope and get over with their cheating boyfriend is allowing them to speak sans letting out your analysis or point of view. Teenagers usually do not require your suggestion or love being told what they should do or should have done. Hence, make them feel that you are all ears for them and that you are ready to hear them out like a friend.
Remember just like any adult, even teens need a secured space to vent out their pent-up emotions, confusion, anger, and frustration sans anybody interference. Always motivate them to speak up, but normalize the idea that they might not feel comfortable sharing the nitty-gritty of their love life with adults.
Offer Some Distraction
Nothing works better than providing a distraction to give your teenage child a break from overthinking about their breakup. Consider taking them out for a movie, or a café. You can also plan for some shopping or a weekend trip to their favorite place. Make a special dish they like or Netflix-binge together.
You can work on a DIY craft with them to keep them distracted, or help them remodel their bedroom, Not only such activities prevent them from getting overly emotional but it is also helpful in reminding them life is so much beautiful and is way above than breakups, relationships, hate and anger.
Just like teenagers can be seriously thrilling, a heartbreak can have a deep impact on their lives. Although getting pricked by emotions is part and parcel of life, you must always be ready to help them come out of the abyss.
Do everything you can to make them feel better and stop them from being swayed away in disappointment. A little effort mixed with compassion and love can go a long way in helping them overcome the phase and return to normalcy.